Does it surprise you to know that I’ve been thinking about you for years? That I would prepare a post telling you what you need to know when you marry my boy?
The boy is now a man, but he’s a boy just the same to me. Even after all these years, I still remember him walking around in his diaper babbling on the phone to anyone who would listen. I remember the time he ran into the kitchen table leg and gave himself his first concussion. The time he rode his bike down and hill hit a house and broke his arm (thank God for helmets). This boy, man, fiance, he was my boy first. He was my first boy, who I’d hoped would be a girl. He changed me, in ways I could have never imagined. He’s the reason I would boast “I was made to be a mom of boys!”.
As hard as it is to let him go, he is exactly where I want him to be. I never wanted him to hang around the nest or wander witout direction. I wanted him to fly off on his own, and I prayed he would find you. I have been praying for him his entire life, but I have been praying for you too. I want to share some things that may take years to see, things that maybe only a mother would know. I hope you embrace him for who he is, the good, the bad, and everything in between.
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What You Need To Know When You Marry My Boy:
He’s A Mama’s Boy:
He’s a mama’s boy, as they say, but don’t worry; you don’t have to compete with me. His being a mama’s boy just means that he knows he can talk to the special woman in his life about anything without being called a sissy, or being told to “act like a man.” He knows the woman in his life will help him when he’s in pain, and celebrate with him when he has reason to celebrate.
He’s spent years with a woman who would take an interest in things she cared nothing about, just to make him smile. Now it’s your turn. You get to be that woman. Thankfully, he also knows that the woman he loves most is not perfect. He knows she will fail him from time to time, get “too busy” for him, and hurt his feelings when she’s angry. But guess what, he’ll love you just the same. He will forgive you, and he will move forward without carrying bitterness in his heart.
He Loves Unconditionally:
At the time of this letter to you, he is still just a boy, but he knows sadness, loss, and grief more than most of his peers. He understands that someone you love can be here one day and gone the next. He’s experienced the pain of divorce, the joy or remarriage, and the fear of losing it again. He holds on tightly to those he loves and can forgive many offenses. He can see beyond the moment. He knows life is hard, and he doesn’t run from his problems. He tries to work them out, and doesn’t believe in moving on to the “next best thing.”
He’s Not Perfect:
My boy is not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, after all, he has me for a mother. He will disappoint you, frustrate you, and let you down. So he too needs someone who loves him and embraces every part of who he is. He needs someone who knows going into the marriage that he will make many mistakes and act selfishly.
He is a sensitive and caring soul. He doesn’t want to let you down, and it hurts him if he thinks he has. At first, he’ll react defensively because he’s trying to protect himself from feeling the pain he has caused you. He hurts deeply when he hurts others and may get angry at himself, but you’ll feel like he’s mad at you. He wants to be everything you want him to be, but because that is an impossible task he may get overwhelmed and struggle with insecurity.
He may pull away when he feels he’s not good enough but know that it’s not because he doesn’t want to be close to you, but because he fears you could do better. He will beat himself up, and he will need you to be sensitive to his feelings. If he tells you something bothers him, or hurts him, take it to heart.
He Will Not Choose Me Over You:
When he commits his life to you, he will leave me. He will still ask me for advice, but not at the expense of ignoring yours. You will have the dominant place in his heart, and he will confide in you more than he confides in me. He won’t talk badly about you to me and will expect me to love and respect you the way he does.
You are marrying an amazing man. A flawed but ridiculously beautiful creation. My life changed the day I met your soon-to-be husband, and I’m sure your life has changed as well. Take care of my boy, and know that I am here for you if you need anything at all. I have lots of fun stories to share with you, and I hope you invest in him the way I have because I can promise you he is worth every moment, every ounce of energy, every tear, he is worth it all.
I love you both.
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