Life is full of people who think they know it all; and I have to admit that sometimes I am one of them.
I find myself judging women and moms for the choices they make, things they say, even what they wear. Being this way never feels good, in fact it’s quite the opposite. It always leaves me pondering why passing judgment comes so easy.
I would have to assume that it’s my own prideful nature that causes me to dissect others. I see myself as some type of authority on issues related to life and motherhood, but who made me the judge of these things? No one. More importantly by judging others I miss out on the ability to empathize and show compassion.
I want to strive to think more highly of others than I do myself. In order to do that I have to humble myself, and realize that my ways are the the “right ways” to do things. They are just the ways that work best for me.
I have to remember that the mother in Walmart with the screaming toddlers is probably embarrassed and stressed out; and my looks could be those that encourage or those that deflate her spirit even more than it already is. Moms don’t need me to tell them it’s time to potty train or get rid of the binki. For these reasons I continually find myself trying to jump down from my pedestal, kick over my soap-box and just LOVE others. It sounds like such an easy task but it really isn’t. Not to truly love others.
The Bible says:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. ~1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
What do you think? Is it ever ok to judge others? Do you find yourself judging others for petty things that really aren’t that important?
The next time you see a mom looking frazzled as she rushes through the grocery store telling her kids to “hurry up”, and you notice that her daughter is wearing PJ’s and has no shoes on; say hi to me, will ya?
Aren’t we all just doing the best we can?