I wish I could have searched the easiest way to stop using a pacifier when my girls were little because we tried so many methods that didn’t work.
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My first two babies (both boys) never had a problem letting go of their pacifier. It was like they woke up one day and just decided they didn’t need their pacifier anymore.
My girls, on the other hand, experienced a serious pacifier dependence. I felt terrible, like the villain from one of their favorite Disney movies. They just wanted to be happy, soothed, comforted, and I just wanted to rip that security right out of their mouths! Being a mom can be so frustrating sometimes. There were points during the day, where even I questioned why I was trying to break the pacifier habit.
Don’t believe me? Read my digital diary entry from the day I took Alexi’s pacifier.
As of today, we will be working on Lexi’s “baa baa” addiction! I call this plan, Operation Keep Away. This plan requires keeping Alexis distracted during the day and only allowing her to use the pacifier at bedtime and naptime. Then I would like to take it away at nap time for a week and hopefully graduate to no pacifier at all after 3 weeks!
I read today about a mom got her daughter to give up the paci to a “paci fairy”! The “fairy” took it away to give it to a baby who needed it, and left her with a big girl surprise! That may be a fun way to rip her childhood away from her (just kidding I know her childhood won’t be shattered, just her relationship with me!). All joking aside I am really hopeful that this process doesn’t take too long, I don’t know how strong my husband will be when he hears his little princess crying for it night after night. So please say a prayer for me and one for her too! We will need it 🙂
Later that day:
Can you guess what kind of day we had? If you guessed whiny, cranky, want-my-ba-ba-more-than-ever kinda day, you guessed correctly!
I made my first mistake by making it such a big deal. I talked to Lexi for 30 minutes about being a big girl. I told her baba’s are for babies, and that they are yucky for big girls. I told her it was time to throw it away, and that’s just what I did. Right in front of her, I tossed her beloved pacifier in the trash.
She cried, and cried, and cried. Did I mention she cried? After hearing her pleas I had no clue what I was doing. I honestly believed I was hurting her.
So what do you think I did?
If you’re thinking I caved, you’re right! I almost cried myself, as I heard her pacifier-muffled sobs as she soothed herself to sleep.
DAY 2: I woke up feeling empowered and stronger! I was ready to help her break this habit! This time instead of throwing her pacifier in the trash, I cut the nipple off.
Yep, I went there.
She cried, but I just fed her breakfast and kept changing the subject. Then, it was nap time. I would put her down, and she would get right back up (crying the whole time). So 2 1/2 hrs later I caved again. Only this time (since she only had the one left) I had to give her one of her baby sister’s pacifier.
10 minutes later she was sleeping peacefully.
I began to feel like a horrible mother. I blamed myself for giving it to her in the first place. I blamed myself for being too weak to take it from her. Sometimes parenting sucks.
Then I got an idea!
I don’t want to be the bad guy, and she doesn’t want me to take her paci.
The obvious solution would be to help Alexis make the choice to get rid of her pacifier.
The method that worked with my first daughter Alexis:
All I had to do was buy some garlic juice and put it on her pacifier.
Before I gave it back to her I told her that when she’s a big girl her pacifier won’t taste good anymore. She tested it three times before she was convinced it was not going to taste any better and handed it back to me.
All in all, I had to do this on two separate occasions that day. After about three days Alexis finally let go of her pacifier habit and formed a new one… her blankie became her new soother.
The method that worked with my second daughter Anna:
Remember what I said earlier about the pacifier fairy? Well, it just so happened that my sister-in-law gave birth right around the time I wanted to break Anna’s pacifier habit. I told Anna that we had to give her pacifier to new babies because they needed them and it worked like a charm! Every time Anna would ask, I would remind her that Scarlette needed them, and she would walk away happy to have helped her new cousin.
With both girls, we broke the pacifier habit in less than four days which shocked me.
So the easiest way to stop using a pacifier is to figure out a way to let your child make a choice. Good Luck!
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