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January 17, 2016

40 Ways To Reduce Stress In Marriage

Do you ever feel like your marriage is the most stressful part of your life? Today I’m sharing 40 ways to reduce stress in marriage.

40 Ways To Reduce Stress In Marriage

Marriage is one of the most complicated relationships we will ever have in our lives. No one will ever get under your skin in the way the man or woman you married will. It’s entirely normal to feel like the love of your life drives you crazy. They can hurt you deeper than anyone else, make you feel completely alone when they are in the same room, and at times they don’t seem to care about you at all.

Let’s go ahead and set the record straight. Love is indeed a battlefield because we are all imperfect and honestly as hard as we may try, we are selfish people. Think about the last two or three fights or arguments you had with your spouse. Whether you were right or wrong, why were you fighting? Can I give you a hint… IT’S BECAUSE YOU WEREN’T GETTING WHAT YOU WANTED. I’m not saying what you wanted was bad or that you shouldn’t want things, but when it causes you to fight you have to step back and ask yourself why it’s so important to you, especially if what you’re wanting is more love or affection because pushing someone away, or making your husband/wife feel unloved to get love never works. Like seriously, ever. So stop!

Okay, enough intro, let’s get to my ridiculous list of 40 ways to reduce stress in marriage.

40 Ways To Reduce Stress In Marriage:

  1. Write a love note to your spouse. Writing in therapeutic and even if you don’t feel the love at first, you will if you push through it.
  2. Smile. Smile in the mirror, smile when your talking on the phone, just look over at your husband and smile.
  3. Kiss a baby. Seriously, I don’t know what it is about babies, but they make you happy. Don’t have a baby to kiss? Kiss a stranger’s baby, and then RUN!
  4. Go out on a date. None of this date night at home crap. Plan a real date and dress up.
  5. Carve out 10-15 minutes of time each day to sit and talk about whatever may be on your mind.
  6. Watch a comedy together. Laughter is the best medicine and laughing together is a true bonding experience.
  7. Tickle each other, wrestle, or play a board game.
  8. Have sex. Nuff said
  9. Have a code word that when said makes both of you laugh. This is perfect for when one of you gets a case of the badattitudes! My husband and I do this thing where we thump the other one’s ear and say “Are you mad?” repeatedly until the other person starts to laugh. We also look each other in the face and make the other person say “I love you” until we are no longer angry. It sounds crazy, but sometimes you just have to break yourself out of those tense moments with laughter.
  10. Go on a double date.
  11. Have “couple” friends. You know, friends that both of you like that are also married.
  12. Spend time together outside. You don’t have to do anything, just get outside in the fresh air.
  13. Read to each other
  14. Pray together
  15. Cook dinner together (annnnnd clean up afterward together).
  16. Deal with the kids together. No more one man show, let the kids see you taking charge together.
  17. Make a bucket list and dream about the future.
  18. Take family vacations, couple vacations, and go on a marriage retreat.
  19. Work on the finances together. Come up with a budget and a plan to get out of debt together (even if only one of you works outside the house).
  20. Take a bath/shower together.
  21. Give each other massages, or get massages together if you can afford it.
  22. Play a sport together (golf is a great game to play together, trust me ladies).
  23. Send sweet texts throughout the day.
  24. Have a lunch date.
  25. Spend time learning to communicate and communicate about important issues when you’re both in a good mood.
  26. Go to church.
  27. Serve the community together.
  28. Encourage one another in everything you take on. My husband is currently studying for a test, and we are having fun studying together.
  29. Whatever you have fun doing, do it, together. Life is short, stop putting things off. Do something fun this week.
  30. Talk about what you would do with the money if you won the lottery.
  31. Sketch out your dream or retirement home.
  32. Talk about what you think your grandchildren will be like, and what kind of grandparent you plan to be.
  33. Make a list of 5-10 things that stress you out every day, and talk to your spouse about how they can help you overcome those stressors.
  34. Start focusing on what you can do to make your marriage more fun and exciting. Stop thinking about the negative aspects of your significant other and think about the positives.
  35. Make a list of 50 things you love about your life.
  36. Make a list of things you love about yourself and those around you.
  37. Practice being grateful for the small things your husband or wife does. Things like doing the laundry, making breakfast, packing lunches, sweeping the floor.
  38. Look at everything your spouse does as something you don’t have to do. Focus on teamwork. You win as a team, and you lose as a team.
  39. Start saying we instead of I.
  40. If you’re the type of person that gets stressed easily consider taking a supplement to help balance your mood and boost your happiness levels throughout the day. Stress in marriage can be caused by a number of things. The top stressors in marriage are often money and children. It doesn’t matter who you marry, you will eventually deal with these two issues, so stop fretting about them and start making life fun again. Enjoy each other’s company and remember that life is too short to live it miserably.

Filed Under: Blog, Family, Marriage Shasta Walton 49 Comments

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  1. John says

    February 2, 2016 at 11:57 PM

    We each have our alone time.
    Reply
  2. Renee says

    February 2, 2016 at 11:44 PM

    Exercise!
    Reply
  3. Anna Carroll says

    February 2, 2016 at 1:50 PM

    Taking hikes together - reconnecting to nature and to each other goes a long way in today's busy lifestyles
    Reply
  4. Birdie Skolfield says

    February 1, 2016 at 2:08 PM

    we exercise together it really de stresses both of us
    Reply
  5. Kathleen says

    February 1, 2016 at 9:56 AM

    Be respectful... and think before you react when something upsets you.
    Reply
  6. Shari says

    February 1, 2016 at 12:14 AM

    One way to reduce stress in marriage is having your own hobbies and spending time along away from your spouse.
    Reply
  7. Jenny H says

    January 30, 2016 at 11:25 PM

    give each other a kiss and blessing before falling asleep at night.
    Reply
  8. Nicole Margrif says

    January 25, 2016 at 7:27 PM

    talk often and have dinner together
    Reply
  9. DS says

    January 25, 2016 at 10:41 AM

    Communication, understanding and date nights.
    Reply
  10. Beth Hern says

    January 25, 2016 at 8:45 AM

    Just by keeping the communication going. Have fun together!
    Reply
  11. paula brown says

    January 24, 2016 at 9:23 AM

    Have together time and me time with friends.
    Reply
  12. Leigh Anne Borders says

    January 23, 2016 at 10:44 AM

    To reduce stress in our marriage we set aside time for us to be together and have an agreement that we will not bring up certain topics. We just get away to be with one another and enjoy each other's company.
    Reply
  13. Jamie Martin says

    January 23, 2016 at 12:56 AM

    We talk...a lot, about everything.
    Reply
  14. Angie Fiack says

    January 22, 2016 at 7:28 PM

    My husband and I never go to bed angry.
    Reply
  15. Mrs M says

    January 22, 2016 at 12:47 PM

    Go on long car rides
    Reply
  16. Lt says

    January 21, 2016 at 10:48 PM

    i just smile and let it go!
    Reply
  17. MBGrammer says

    January 21, 2016 at 11:14 AM

    We spend time together.... often. And we laugh, a lot.
    Reply
  18. Dan D says

    January 20, 2016 at 7:10 PM

    My wife and I always have dinner at the table together each night and converse about our day.
    Reply
  19. Bruce says

    January 20, 2016 at 5:06 PM

    communication reduces stress
    Reply
  20. Cari says

    January 20, 2016 at 11:13 AM

    We set aside one meal a week where we sit down (without the TV) and just talk about what's going on in our lives. It helps keep us balanced.
    Reply
  21. Jennifer George says

    January 20, 2016 at 9:51 AM

    Leaving notes or sending texts each day just to let us know we're thinking of each other.
    Reply
  22. Dolores Miranda says

    January 20, 2016 at 5:53 AM

    We never go to bed mad at each other!
    Reply
  23. Kelly H. says

    January 20, 2016 at 4:04 AM

    Laughter! It's hard to stay stressed when you're cracking up together!
    Reply
  24. Harriett D. says

    January 19, 2016 at 11:21 PM

    We watch movies, play games and fish!
    Reply
  25. ddc says

    January 19, 2016 at 10:43 PM

    disclose issues immediately
    Reply
  26. John Bertolami says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:34 PM

    I spend time with my little ones!!! They always make me smile and forget about any stress!!
    Reply
  27. Christina Howell says

    January 19, 2016 at 6:13 PM

    I make sure that I do my yoga. It really helps relieve my stress and makes me feel good. This way I am more understanding and patient.
    Reply
  28. Bailey Dexter says

    January 19, 2016 at 5:00 PM

    Hubby and I keep no secrets, even if things are rough or not going right we talk all the time!
    Reply
  29. Larrissa says

    January 19, 2016 at 4:37 PM

    Pray together
    Reply
  30. Hildred Cherry says

    January 19, 2016 at 4:16 PM

    Always take time to talk to each other's everyday.
    Reply
  31. Ivette says

    January 19, 2016 at 3:17 PM

    We reduce stress by taking a nap together all cuddled up. :)
    Reply
  32. Nancy says

    January 19, 2016 at 2:57 PM

    Kiss each other every day!
    Reply
  33. Candace Galan-Calderon says

    January 19, 2016 at 2:52 PM

    When you mess up or start an argument, apologize and move on. The worst thing is it continuing because that's when things can get nasty. I have a wonderful marriage and we hardly ever argue because we both know when to apologize and move on.
    Reply
  34. Carol N says

    January 19, 2016 at 1:02 PM

    We cook dinner together!
    Reply
  35. Hayley Goatee says

    January 19, 2016 at 12:40 PM

    We often have a movie and pizza night to relieve stress, and discuss future plans that excite us.
    Reply
  36. Annie says

    January 19, 2016 at 12:15 PM

    Tell him how much I appreciate his help with everyday challenges.
    Reply
  37. steve weber says

    January 19, 2016 at 10:51 AM

    We do everything together.. and we try to have picnic dinners on the carpet
    Reply
  38. Marie B says

    January 19, 2016 at 10:40 AM

    I am a stay at home Mom and sometimes I feel like I am always giving to others and rarely taking time to myself. I feel like I need alone time with just myself to be a better wife - just a couple hours a week.
    Reply
  39. sheila ressel says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:49 AM

    We make sure to have a date night once a week.
    Reply
  40. Shannon says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:30 AM

    You need to take time to yourself...we've been lucky enough to go on a mini-vacation with just the two of us twice in the last 8 years and we really re-connected. It was like dating again!
    Reply
  41. Annmarie Weeks says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:29 AM

    In addition to spending time together, we like to give each other space! We're not just a couple, but we are also 2 individuals with our separate interests. We don't want to smother each other!
    Reply
  42. sandra says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:13 AM

    talk through issues
    Reply
  43. Mindi Eden says

    January 19, 2016 at 9:09 AM

    I avoid talking when I 1st get up....true!
    Reply
  44. Kathy C says

    January 19, 2016 at 8:25 AM

    I avoid arguments when we're angry
    Reply
  45. Kristi S says

    January 19, 2016 at 7:32 AM

    Keep out the negativity!
    Reply
  46. Deanna Adkins says

    January 19, 2016 at 3:57 AM

    Talk to each other. Get everything out in the open.
    Reply
  47. Andrea Peregretti says

    January 19, 2016 at 2:09 AM

    We have date nights weekly, and always try to have good communication!
    Reply
  48. Colleen Maul says

    January 18, 2016 at 11:43 PM

    I remove stress in my marriage by my husband and I going for a swift jog. Then when we get back we are so tired from jogging that our body's are almost detoxed .
    Reply
  49. harold says

    January 18, 2016 at 11:41 PM

    Go out together once or twice a week.
    Reply

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